Today is January 5th, 2026I just got off FaceTime with my nephew
Before our call, I talked to my landlady
I paid her my rent and utilities for the month
Over my 4 years of stay in my apartment
We have bonded over sharing stories
And talking about public affairs
She shared, if she knew then what she knew now,
She will not get married, she will not have children
And she will spend all her life earnings
Traveling the world and creating memories
And she will not regret one bit of it
I have been sitting with her words - pondering
I am approaching my 28th year in this world
I am unmarried, I do not have any children
I am in my 4th year of law school
I have a good job that pays well and
I have travelled to some parts of the world
In contrast, I am living the life she yearns for
And she is right, if she had my life
She will not regret one bit of it, because I do not
Sure, there are tons of bad decisions
I have made along the way, but it is part of life
Those decisions helped me understand “me”
However, the Universe has a funny way
Of showing us our path and where we end up
Maybe if she knew then what she knew now
And she had my life, she will resent it too
Hyper-independence is exhausting
And can eventually drive you to burnout
Maybe if she had my life, she will wish to get married
Have children, then grandchildren, and then more
I sure do, I wish that for myself, so badly
Maybe because I have pondered over what she said
I want the domesticated life, a husband who loves me
And the cute, adorable children running around
Life is messy, complicated and cruel
But it is yours, it is yours to do as you please
You can wish for things or work hard for it
Then imagine scenarios that fits your vision
Curate the life you want, one pink plate at a time
Schedule flights to places you have only seen on TV
Eat the food you can barely even pronounce
Sunbathe in the equator without sunscreen
Ice bath in the arctic with the polar bears
Learn to play a musical instrument in your 30s
Learn a new language or learn sign language
You have to understand, communication is a love language
Now, whatever you do with your life
Do yourself a favor and make sure
It is something that your older self
Will definitely thank you for…